5 Ways LGBTQ+ Couples Therapy Can Help LGBTQ+ Couples Explore Consensual Non-Monogamy
Consensual Non-Monogamy and Queer Relationships
The concept of love has always been complex, and as society evolves, so do our ways of expressing it. Polyamory, also referred to as consensual non-monogamy (CNM), is the practice of having multiple romantic and/or sexual relationships. It is also with the knowledge and consent of all parties involved. In fact, according to Psychology Today, at least one in five Americans has had a consensually non-monogamous relationship at some point in their lives. About 1 in 20 is in one right now!
With all that being said, we understand that navigating these types of relationships can be challenging. Especially without support and guidance. To aid with this, our team at CZ Therapy Group has put together five ways couples therapy can help LGBTQ+ couples explore polyamory and other non-traditional relationships.
Whether this is something that you’re currently exploring or curious about, we hope these tips guide you in demystifying the ever-changing landscape of queer love.
Important Note:
While this blog focuses on non-monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships within the LGBTQ+ community, non-traditional relationships are not at all exclusive to queer people. However, like in most aspects of society, queer non-monogamous people experience more isolation and discrimination than their heteronormative counterparts. As such, this blog seeks to highlight consensual non-monogamy within queer relationships specifically.
1. Understanding Non-Monogamous Relationships
Before we dive into the ways couples therapy can help LGBTQ+ couples explore non-monogamy, it's important to understand what these relationships entail. Non-traditional relationships can take many forms, including polyamory, open relationships, and non-monogamous relationships. Monogamous relationships involve exclusivity and commitment to one partner. Non-monogamous relationships and polyamory may involve consensual romantic or sexual relationships with more than one person.
Now, you might be wondering, is it worth it?
Well, contrary to popular belief, polyamory is not an excuse for your partner to have fun with multiple people without repercussions. Instead, it's an opportunity to build and maintain healthy and fulfilling relationships with each person involved. Non-monogamy requires lots of intentionalities and open communication. But the rewards of a successful non-traditional relationship can be fulfilling if the relationship is built on respect and trust.
2. Addressing Communication Issues
So a major key to navigating non-monogamous relationships is communication! Communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. But it's especially important in non-monogamous relationships. This is where couples therapy comes into play. Couples therapy can help LGBTQ+ couples improve their communication skills. As it helps provide a safe and supportive space to discuss their feelings and needs. LGBTQ+ therapists in Denver, CO can also provide tools and techniques to help partners communicate. In a setting that is free from judgment and bias.
With a therapist's guidance, couples can learn to listen actively and express themselves more clearly. This can lead to a deeper understanding of each other's needs and desires.
3. Navigating Jealousy and Insecurity
Now you might be asking yourself: What if I start to feel jealous of my partners…partners?
Navigating jealousy and insecurity in non-monogamous relationships is something that may come up. It can feel like a real rollercoaster ride, especially with multiple people involved. One minute you may feel secure, and the next minute you're spiraling into a vortex of emotions.
Couples therapy in Denver, CO can provide a safe landing pad to explore these emotions. Finding the right therapist is essential. As it can help offer tools and strategies for managing jealousy and insecurity. So you don't feel like you’re losing control. Plus, therapy in Denver, CO gives you a chance to express your feelings in a safe, constructive way. Providing you with relief from all you’ve been carrying alone and helping your partner(s) see and understand you better.
4. Establishing Boundaries
We touched on this before, but a common misconception in non-monogamous relationships is that it is free for all. In our experience, we have seen firsthand that that couldn't be further from the truth. One can argue that in navigating non-monogamous relationships, one must have a deeper sense of awareness of their boundaries and what boundaries their partners have.
For example, one partner might say, "I'm okay with you having multiple partners, but I don't want to hear about the details." Another might say, "I'm fine with you seeing other people, but only if we agree on specific times and days." Whatever it might look like, the key is communication.
LGBTQ+ couples therapy can help LGBTQ+ couples establish healthy boundaries. It helps by facilitating open and honest communication about each partner's needs and preferences. Queer-affirming therapists can also provide tools and techniques for setting and maintaining boundaries. Such as negotiation of the relationship configuration and establishing a healthy compromise between each person involved.
5. Working Through Relationship Challenges
Like any relationship, non-monogamous relationships can face challenges and obstacles. Are you facing challenges in your non-monogamous relationship? Don’t be afraid to seek support. LGBTQ+ couples therapy in Denver, CO can provide relationships with the support and guidance they need to work through these challenges and come out stronger and more resilient within the parameters of the love they are radically and courageously defining for themselves.
Remember, love comes in all forms. With the right support, non-monogamous relationships can be as loving and fulfilling as monogamous ones. Regardless of what your journey of love may be, remember that it’s ok to take it one step at a time.
Therapy for Consensual Non-Monogamy in Denver, CO
If you are a queer individual or relationship considering a non-monogamy in Denver and would like to seek external support, it's important to find a therapist who is affirming and knowledgeable about non-traditional relationships. By seeking out queer-affirming therapy, you are taking a bold and vibrant step in celebrating love and your mental health journey.
At CZ Therapy Group, we understand the unique experiences and challenges that LGBTQ+ couples and consensually non-monogamous couples face. We commit to providing a safe and inclusive space for our clients. If you're seeking support in finding a queer and non-monogamous affirming therapist in the Denver area or virtually and would like to schedule a consultation with us, please don't hesitate to reach out to schedule a consultation.
Ready to Start LGBTQ+ Couples Therapy in Denver, CO?
If you and your partner are struggling to overcome the challenges you face as an LGBTQ+ couple, don’t wait to seek help. One of our qualified LGBTQ+ therapists at CZ Therapy Group will help provide you and your partner with the support you need to thrive in your relationship. To get started follow these three simple steps:
1. Reach out to schedule a free 20-minute consult call.
2. Connect with the CZTG therapist of your choice via a phone consult.
3. Begin working through the challenges you and your partner may face as an LGBTQ+ couple!