attachment-focused Trauma Therapy
Developing a more secure attachment style through trauma therapy.
There’s a lot to be said about attachment styles, but let’s break it down to its nuts and bolts here. Our attachment style describes the way we connect and communicate with others in relationships based on how our caregivers interacted with us as we grew up.
Secure attachment is modeled to us (or not) during our key developmental years. The reality is, even the most well-intentioned caregivers often miss the mark in meeting their child’s attachment needs. As a result, we may struggle creating secure, trusting relationships in adulthood, especially if our unmet attachment needs coincided with childhood trauma, abuse, or neglect. Many of our clients at CZTG have also experienced unhealthy or abusive relationships in adulthood, only further rattling their sense of safety in connection with others.
We develop our attachment style - or attachment strategies, as our therapists like to call them - in response to missing or harmful attachment experiences in our past.
While these strategies are adaptive and help us make it through difficult or traumatic times, they can also pose barriers in our present day lives and relationships. For example, if your caregivers were unpredictable, explosive, and abusive growing up, you may utilize disorganized attachment strategies today - even in safe, healthy relationships. This may look like hyper awareness of subtle shifts in others, the deep desire for closeness while simultaneously pulling away out of fear, and an inability to know and express your needs.
As Denver trauma therapists, we specialize in helping clients navigate disorganized attachment (and all of the other attachment strategies in between). Learn more about how trauma impacts attachment styles and, if you’re curious, explore your own attachment style through this attachment style quiz.